Children thrive on attention. If they are not receiving enough positive attention, they will work on getting negative attention. This can be due to several factors, such as: they don’t feel noticed for the positive things they are doing or for just “being themselves”. Therefore they resort to making an impact to get your full attention, even if that means that they will be shouted at or bawled out! They succeeded in their need to be seen.
Research shows that the problem with giving more than twenty seconds of negative attention is that after a short period of time, the child’s negative behavior INCREASES, rather than DECREASES. A habit has been created!
Here’s where “parenting skill #2” enters: Give Encouragement, pay positive attention, and positively reinforce what your child is doing well! In the long run it takes less time and less emotional energy to give the positive attention that…
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