As one popular child psychologist suggests: “Children learn what they live”. Since all behaviors emerge from the home environment and early childhood experiences, it is important that parents be actively involved in their child’s educational life as well as ‘model’ the behaviors they wish to see.
As the late Phyllis Kunimura expressed in her book Beyond the Sandbox/ Preschool Matters:
“We believe that parents love their children, want the best for their children, and have good intentions. But not all parents know how to parent in a positive, encouraging” effective way. “They feel that the way they were parented, which is the model they are most apt to follow, was good enough for them, so it must be good enough for their children…Being a parent in this new millenium means understanding basic brain research, attending parenting skills classes and realizing the importance of stable loving relationships…It also means understanding that children are happier and more secure when parents set consistent limits”.
Instead of giving in to a child, it is important to guide her/him in a positive way.
Phyllis Kunimura’s ideas for a stellar pre-school program to guide pre-schoolers to natural success in kindgergarten was based on her background of thirty years as a kindgergarten teacher. Her ideas plus her vast experience are the basis of Kauai Independent Daycare Services, Inc. (K.I.D.S.).
Likewise when Diane Tillman embarked on developing an international values-education project for toddlers, school-aged children and young adults, it was backed by her work with thousands of parents during two decades as a successful school psychologist. Her ideas coupled with her vast experience for guiding children and their parents grew into a comprehensive values-education approach called Living Values Education (LVE). In the foreward to Diane’s book Nurturing with Love and Wisdom, Discipling with Peace and Respect she has written that:
“LVE provides methods and activities for educators and caregivers to actively engage and allow children the opportunity to explore, experience and express twelve universal values.” She goes on to say that: “Fifteen values-education books later, I have circled the globe many times, teaching and facilitating a process for adults to explore how they can teach children about peace, respect, love, tolerance, cooperation, and honesty and develop a values-based atmosphere where values are readily acquired.”
We have a small, highly motivated, team of LVE facilitators living here on Kauai now offering their services to parents and school administrators alike.
To inquire about parenting skills classes and /or facilitating your child’s school to become an LVE school, call Donna @ 639-9436 or Deborah @651-4534